Finding 'The One'.

If you don't laugh at least once while you're having sex,

you are having sex with the wrong person...

I didn't find the person I would spend the rest of my life with until I was 40. I had been married once at the age of 20. I had 4 children in 4 years. I wish I could use youth as the reason why my first spouse was not my lifetime spouse. But I can't get away with that excuse. I was just anxious and full of faith in my ability to do anything I wanted to do. I jumped into a relationship with a person who was far from settled or directed. I came from a terrible family life, and he came from a great one. I convinced myself and him that we could do this. 19 years later, I had to admit I was wrong. But I refused to give up on lifetime love.

But then I found this really dorky guy who lived half a country away.

And he had been through a heartbreaking attempt at marriage too. He was so calm and level, and while he was still a little unsure of his future, he never made me feel like that worried him. He was secure and most of all, so funny. He made me laugh at the oddest times. Later, when we were intimate, he even made me laugh then too. I think that is when I realized that I had truly found 'The One' this time.

So I guess I just wanted to encourage you not to see lifetime commitment as some big serious venture.

Real love is when you find someone really annoying at times, but you still want to be around them. They understand your quirks, call you out when you are being insincere, and laugh at your attempts to be too sexy when you are a Grandmother. Real love is gritty and greasy, and sometimes stinky. But that's what makes it the one thing that can always bring a smile to your face when you think of their face.

So here's to finding "The One".

CHEERS, FRIENDS!