Let Your Inner Dancer Become Your Dance!

“What you think of yourself is much more important than what people think of you.”

 ~Seneca

I can still remember it like it happened yesterday.

There I was. Ten years old. It was my first day back at a new school. My 4th in my young life.

I walked past the gate that marked the entrance to the school compound. I passed under this massive tree as it towered over me. I was in a crowd of other screaming school kids. They laughed and cackled loudly. It was cold, and yet I was dressed in a short-sleeved dress and black 'go-go' boots.

Me? I just felt overwhelmed. See, I was always an anxious kid. Scared. Worried that I would not be successful at this new school. If I struggled and had trouble, that would only add to the tension and disruption in my home. I had to make it, and help my parents find a reason to be happy. That was the world I lived in.

For many years, my obligation to make others happy tainted my vision like prison bars that impose a life sentence on inmates who have long forgotten the bars even exist. Thankfully, people were put in my path who told me I could be more. They told me I deserved to be free, and confident in my abilities.

But there was a process to becoming the self-confident human I am today. I had to lose the self-consciousness that stopped me from finding the rhythm of my life and dancing to it. I had to....

Let the dancer become the dance.

Do you ever feel disconnected from what you’re doing because of that little voice telling you that you're not good enough? Does your mental chatter derail your sincere efforts? If so, you’re not alone. We all experience this from time to time. I think I've found part of the solution to this constricting behavior.

Make a decision to lose yourself completely in your work and in the moments of your life. Get so absorbed in it that you enter a state of flow. Let the dancer become the dance. Become the subject of your bigger picture, not a just small segment of your story.

When the dancer becomes the dance, there is no dancer. It's just a lovely performance. Therefore, there is no one to suffer from lack of confidence. No one to draw the attention to themselves and their difference.

There’s just the dance. The flow.

It's not blending in and becoming unseen.

It's finding how you are vital to all that surrounds you.

Cheers.