Conflicts Canceled, Until Further Notice.

Too many fighters stay in the game for too long. They stay because it's awfully hard to walk away from the roar of the crowd. Really hard. 

You live for that, and so you stay too long.

~Gerry Cooney

As I mentioned Monday, I'm quite comfortable with conflict...

Reading the quote above, I could relate. When conflict becomes a habit and a way of life, you find it hard to walk away. When you are a 'fighter,' like me, you begin to think you truly need it to substantiate yourself. And so, sometimes you will find yourself either embroiled in a useless argument or drawn back into a contemptuous relationship because it feels right. The cheering section of those around you who are either peace seekers or co-fighters will tell you it's okay. You are their leader in setting the score or making it right.

I'm here today to tell you that this is a condition you might want to bring healing to...

Yes, bring healing, as it really can be quite a bad habit that is stealing from your joy. Just consider for a moment the amount of time you have spent either trying to appease a person who seems to visit you with constant conflict or change the mind of someone who will never see things your way? And all the while, those people I talked about Monday - the ones who you need so badly to maintain a close relationship to - are there waiting for some of your time. The gap between those who are dear to you and those who are fear to you needs to be balanced. Or, they need to be completely reversed, whatever your case.

There are those that I will never allow to stay in conflict with me...

As a dear friend said yesterday, she would sit on the doorstep of her daughter if she refused to settle an argument with her. I don't give up on coming to an understanding with dear ones. You should not either. But there are others, who might be related to you even, who may need to receive a notice of cancellation. 

"Dear person, our conflicts are cancelled until further notice." 

Sometimes, it's time to walk away. 

Wish them peace, and give yourself freedom.

Cheers.